The Gift & the Game
Do you remember when you were little and it felt like a school day just went forever? Everywhere you went in the car was a journey and it was only valid that you asked “are we there yet”? Dinner was endless because of the mountain of vegetables that always went cold before you could finish them..That’s how slow time felt.
I once joked that Apple was speeding up time because it feels like there is so much to do in so little time. It’s a whirling of endlessly calling out to the kids “hurry up we are going to be late” then checking the time on my phone to make sure i’m not late for wherever it is I am going next.
Without question for me the rapid pace of the tech revolution has impacted how time is felt and lived. Gone are the days of sharing a computer with your desk buddy, now we all have one we carry with us all day everyday. We are never out of touch or out of reach, well unless we choose to turn it all off and disappear for a day.
It’s a scary thought for some, a dream come true for others. It’s not really the tech though is it?
It is how we have for the most part reshaped our thinking and the access that we openly offer people to us coupled with the actions we take that makes time feel like it is speeding up.
That little hand computer, the access we give people to us has us switched on watching the hours rapidly pass us by. Our schedule bings on our phones, our watches ring, our earphones deliver messages and our cars can reply for us while we hastily dash from one place to the next.
How often have you driven somewhere and arrived only to not really remember driving there?
How often have you had a conversation but heard none of it because you were circling back around to the thought of an email that you need to send?
Wanting to live life, to experience as much of it as possible is beautiful, if you can be present when you are living it. Time is a gift. Being able to experience the time you live fully, is the game.
Your soul requires you to rest, to create and tend to stillness. What we perhaps forget is that even when we are still there is much happening within.
Stillness might be uncomfortable. To sit in stillness, to pause, to not check or check in. Stillness can be scary.
The anchor here is to not just find stillness in your body, it is being able to find stillness in your thoughts.
Your body needs you to support and nourish your nervous system. We experience our world through our nervous system. Our senses depend on the wellness of your nervous system and when you are overwhelmed, tired or stressed you will experience life differently.
Stillness will help you feel a slow down and a calm down in your mind, body and soul.
Stillness will bring you back to the present moment.
There is immediate conscious action you can take to find stillness if you are in a safe place.
It doesn’t have to be quiet. The quiet comes from within.
Close your eyes, breathe in slowly and visualise your heart. Exhale slowly. Try to repeat as many times as you want to. When you open your eyes, there is a tiny moment of absolute appreciation for the stillness you just created. Let practice be your friend.
Alternatively if you have more time:
Find a space near a wall, lay down on the floor and put your legs up the wall so your heels are connected to the wall and the soles of your feet are facing the ceiling. Please ensure that your legs are close to the wall - having them in a vertical position is optimal.Settle here. Place your arms out to the side just out from your hips, palms face up and stay here for between 3 - 5 minutes. Always be gentle with yourself both getting into this position and getting out of this position.
When you bring your legs down from the wall, take a slow breath before you gently come into the sitting position.
Pausing, finding stillness is a way of nurturing mind, body and soul.
Make no mistake, when you start it can feel like you are doing more work. It can be challenging.
When you find your stillness you are able to soothe your nervous system.
Stillness is a way for you to nourish, too illuminate, too soften. It requires you to get uncomfortable, and to pause deliberately. It requires you to develop a devotion to the abundant rest your soul needs for you to experience life in the present, to appreciate the gift and to master the game.