• Bec Patterson

More than a temple.



In Studio this morning, I recounted a story and was laughing out loud as I told it.. And then I realised, there should be more story telling. More conversation and far more realisation that your body is so much more than a temple, it is a plethora of joy, wonder and pleasure.

The story...

A couple of years ago I went to a health consultant as I wanted to purchase a product they had access to.

I wanted to test the interaction of the product within my body and see if it elevated how I already felt.

At the appointment the health consultant asked me to rate how I saw my body and how I felt in my body.

I responded with 9 out of 10.. Lets be real there is always something we would want to change, even a little.

That rating was meet with an honest and pure reaction of shock.

"Do you really feel like that?" "How much weight do you want to lose?" "No, honestly, how do you really feel?"

The questions were a reflection not of me rather of someone who obviously has a differing opinion of what / how someone should look to feel a genuine 9/10. We talked over this for a long period of time, which in truth was frustrating. Justifying how good I felt to someone was a little awkward and not the purpose at all for being there.

So here is the value in the story.

I have not always felt this way. There had been early year experiences that told me I was no where close to being able to feel good about myself purely based on my physical size. I tried diets, diet tablets, so many diet shakes, spent hours in gyms bashing my body into submission so I could allow my self the approval of feeling like I was "normal" not amazing just normal.

I developed horribly unhealthy habits that still challenge me to this day.

If it were not for some very salient moments and key people in my life I would still be chasing "normal".

Fate would see me retrain in my 30's to become a Pilates instructor. I am a size 14-16 depending on where I shop. Don't even get me started on that!!!!!

Movement has helped me develop such a strong relationship with myself. I have built a trust in my body I could not have imagined possible. It will go as far as I will believe in it too. So much gratitude.

Training and still to this day teaching is sometimes meet with a raised eyebrow or in the extreme some very unflattering comments, which always intrigues me. Just to confirm you don't need to be a size 0 to learn or pass that knowledge on!

People such as Ashley Graham, Fiona Faulkner, Evie Foster, Anula Maiberg, Brene Brown and many others have been fearless advocates in dispelling the myth that you have to be a size 0 to be genuinely in love with your body and how you feel about yourself.

The lessons or if you like the messages are so many, lets start here.

Your body is beyond incredible, just knowing that makes me feel good about myself.

We challenge our bodies thousands of times a day and it's response is love, regeneration and movement.

Your perception of how you feel about your body is all in the mind. Influence comes from those around you, what you allow yourself to believe and most importantly how deeply you work at the connection you have with yourself.

Being able to love my body has given me some unexpected pleasures.

Active wear is amazing, and makes my curves look incredible.

Summers are spent in swimwear and sarongs in the pool or at the beach.

Sex is so much more than I thought possible, maybe thats another conversation!

Nutrition is simple, does this nourish my body - how will my body respond?

Movement is for pleasure not punishment.

I am in my kids photo's.. We will have family albums with memories forever.

Being a 40 year old woman, and a mother has challenged me to respect my body, to learn about what makes me feel incredible and how I can best teach my son and daughter that their relationship with their bodies is profound.

Sit for a minute if you will without sound or distraction and ask yourself this... How do you feel? What do you feel.. I hope from your toes to the crown of your head you feel love.

Bec xo.

#bodypositive #selflove #movement #balance

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